moosh in indy.

I’m not sure how to go about saying this, it’s been bothering me for a while and every time I try to write about it I end up getting really pissy and defensive (which I am but don’t want to be) I love staying home with the moosh. I get tired and stressed out and sometimes long for the chance to fly off to New York at a moments notice and shop for Louis Vuitton bags. I have always wanted to be an actress or maybe a world class chef. And if I could start all over at 18 I would head towards med school right out of high school. But that’s not how my life worked out. I chose a different path which led me down the path I’m on now, happily married to a man who’s going to rock law school and a mother to a gross amount of joy, happiness and stickiness gathered up in a 26 lb. curly haired moosh-o. I don’t need to justify my choice of staying home and actually enjoying it to anyone.
I don’t get paid a cent, I have no chance of getting promoted or of winning any sort of award at the company party. My performance is evaluated on a daily basis by everyone around me and a good majority of them judge unfairly. Most of my life’s work will probably go unnoticed and is utterly thankless 98% of the time. But I have never been happier. I have something to live for that is my own. And if you want to call me a common housewife go ahead, because to you I am common, but to that little girl singing to me in the next room who refuses to take a nap, I am her hero. And that’s enough for me.

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SAHM POWER!! I am in the same boat with ya! You know, I have never faulted other moms for choosing to work (judged their parenting skills maybe but not for working) but it seems that, for me anyways, that all of the working moms I know fault me for staying home! Especially all of the female in-laws I have who just happen to be working moms!! They keep telling me that if I go back to work it would be better for me! I get really upset and defensive because I thought that I was the one that knew what was best for me AND my daughter! Sometimes, yes, I would like a break! Who doesn’t ever want a break from whatever life that they chose to live?? If that makes any sense! I CHOSE to stay home instead of going back to work and I KNOW it was the right decision, so why should I let what they say bother me? Thank you for writing this Cuz! It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one with these feelings! By the way- YOU’RE A GREAT MOM!!! the moosh. is the proof!

Casey:
Thanks for leaving a comment on my blog. I have 2. One just for me and another one for my 15 month old daughter and my thoughts about parenthood. I stayed home for 10 months after she was born and then went back to work 5 months ago. I just wrote a post about it. If you’d like to check it out, here’s the url:

http://babyastrid.blogspot.com

You can also read all about my stay at home mom days. =)

I think you are a wonderful mother! You should be proud of what you do,day in and day out. It is a lot of work!!! As for working mothers….I think every woman has needs and as for myself my need is to not be a mother
24-7. I need to get out of the house and be an individual person. That is my time to be called by my real name and not ‘mom’. I enjoy my time away and the profession I chose to pursue. I feel when I come home I am rejuvinated and am ready to start again. I need that!! But…..there is a flip side to everything. My children are sad as I get ready to go to work. I call them at night and kiss them over the phone before they go to bed. When I get home my house has been turned upside down and there is no sense of structure as there was when I left it. Then, as I am driving my children to the babysitters, about 75% of the time, are whining begging me to let them stay home with me. Talk about break my heart in a million little pieces! Guilt builds until I can barely stand it. Those are just a few of the issues I deal with because I chose to be a working mother. And I am sure I have missed ‘priceless moments’ that can never be redone. But I swallow it and do what I have to so I am happy. Plus as you know ‘if mom’s not happy, nobody’s happy’. I think you should be happy with your decision to stay home and enjoy it! If someone is to judge you, that is their problem not yours…you are doing what you love most. But then again, if it upsets you that people judge your decision to stay home, maybe you aren’t doing what is best for you and need to reevaluate your situation. No one knows you more that yourself! Think about it!!
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