Comments on: conflicted. http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/ one stink, dozens of different ways. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:54:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Kim http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44249 Kim Tue, 27 Jul 2010 04:49:23 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44249 yep. you! yep. you!

]]> By: flutter http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44210 flutter Sat, 24 Jul 2010 23:35:34 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44210 Aw, babe this is so lovely and incredibly sweet. Rest well, Cheryl Aw, babe this is so lovely and incredibly sweet. Rest well, Cheryl

]]> By: Sarah http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44207 Sarah Sat, 24 Jul 2010 16:58:41 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44207 <a href="#comment-44206" rel="nofollow">@Domestic Extraordinaire</a>, I think that's a beautiful suggestion for a way to respond. And a great way to look at it. @Domestic Extraordinaire,
I think that’s a beautiful suggestion for a way to respond. And a great way to look at it.

]]> By: Domestic Extraordinaire http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44206 Domestic Extraordinaire Sat, 24 Jul 2010 14:27:27 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44206 I, too, have the belief that we go on to a better place, but my earthly self does get sad at the fact that I won't see this person again for an undetermined amount of time. I remember when my mother-in-law passed away a few years ago. She had been very sick for a very long time, the girls hardly remember the grandmother that she used to be, when I get sad I mourn not for her, as she is in a better place, but for my girls. They will never really know her well on this side of Heaven. They will miss out on all those things that you do with Grandmother's. So I don't think that you should be sad, but if someone tells you that they are sorry for your loss, you can tell them how thankful you were for her life. xo I, too, have the belief that we go on to a better place, but my earthly self does get sad at the fact that I won’t see this person again for an undetermined amount of time. I remember when my mother-in-law passed away a few years ago. She had been very sick for a very long time, the girls hardly remember the grandmother that she used to be, when I get sad I mourn not for her, as she is in a better place, but for my girls. They will never really know her well on this side of Heaven. They will miss out on all those things that you do with Grandmother’s.

So I don’t think that you should be sad, but if someone tells you that they are sorry for your loss, you can tell them how thankful you were for her life.

xo

]]> By: Kellee http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44198 Kellee Fri, 23 Jul 2010 22:51:01 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44198 That's really beautiful Casey. I'm glad you have a way to find peace. That’s really beautiful Casey. I’m glad you have a way to find peace.

]]> By: Aimee Greeblemonkey http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44195 Aimee Greeblemonkey Thu, 22 Jul 2010 23:11:05 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44195 My Aunt Heidi. I'll tell you about her soon. My Aunt Heidi. I’ll tell you about her soon.

]]> By: michelle http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44190 michelle Thu, 22 Jul 2010 19:14:36 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44190 Casey, I totally understand your conflicted feelings. When my sister passed away after suffering with cancer for almost a year I was happy for her freedom and sad because I knew I'd have to wait so long to see her again. I miss her every day, even after 6 years. Casey, I totally understand your conflicted feelings. When my sister passed away after suffering with cancer for almost a year I was happy for her freedom and sad because I knew I’d have to wait so long to see her again. I miss her every day, even after 6 years.

]]> By: Kim http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44188 Kim Thu, 22 Jul 2010 18:59:40 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44188 I like to hope I have at least two. : ) I like to hope I have at least two. : )

]]> By: Sarah http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44186 Sarah Thu, 22 Jul 2010 18:10:26 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44186 My husband and I were actually discussing death recently, because his grandma was in pretty bad health, and we knew she wasn't going to be with us much longer. We both hold the same belief as you, that she is now in a body with no pain and plenty of strength. But we both struggled with the tradition of funerals, receiving lines, visitation times, body viewings, etc. We discussed it a lot, and I even did some research. Turns out my husband and I are both just old souls, and we hold a lot of thought that is similar to the way things used to be done long ago, before many of the funeral traditions of today that are done for the sake of the living, not of those who are gone. Neither of us wanted to stand in line and be told "Sorry for your loss" hundreds of times by people we didn't know - because it wasn't how we felt. Of course we're sad she's gone and he especially misses her, but like you, we believe she's happy, and that makes us glad that she's not suffering anymore. But many people have a different viewpoint and (I assume) believe you should be present at all those traditions and publicly grieve. Believe me, he grieves plenty, but on his own. Sorry that was so long. It's just relieving to see that someone else has the same feelings and doesn't necessarily believe that all the feelings we have in this situation must be sadness, despite what the "norm" is. My husband and I were actually discussing death recently, because his grandma was in pretty bad health, and we knew she wasn’t going to be with us much longer. We both hold the same belief as you, that she is now in a body with no pain and plenty of strength. But we both struggled with the tradition of funerals, receiving lines, visitation times, body viewings, etc. We discussed it a lot, and I even did some research. Turns out my husband and I are both just old souls, and we hold a lot of thought that is similar to the way things used to be done long ago, before many of the funeral traditions of today that are done for the sake of the living, not of those who are gone. Neither of us wanted to stand in line and be told “Sorry for your loss” hundreds of times by people we didn’t know – because it wasn’t how we felt. Of course we’re sad she’s gone and he especially misses her, but like you, we believe she’s happy, and that makes us glad that she’s not suffering anymore. But many people have a different viewpoint and (I assume) believe you should be present at all those traditions and publicly grieve. Believe me, he grieves plenty, but on his own.

Sorry that was so long. It’s just relieving to see that someone else has the same feelings and doesn’t necessarily believe that all the feelings we have in this situation must be sadness, despite what the “norm” is.

]]> By: Elizabeth Kaylene http://mooshinindy.com/2010/07/22/conflicted/comment-page-1/#comment-44184 Elizabeth Kaylene Thu, 22 Jul 2010 17:47:05 +0000 http://mooshinindy.com/?p=2689#comment-44184 I like what you said about losing someone but gaining a guardian angel. It's comforting. I am sorry for your loss, but I hope that thought continues to comfort you. *hugs* I like what you said about losing someone but gaining a guardian angel. It’s comforting. I am sorry for your loss, but I hope that thought continues to comfort you.

*hugs*

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