Comments on: aftermath.

By: Miss E

Miss E — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:32:16 +0000

Casey, you are amazing the way you can put your feelings into words.

My husband finished law school and passed the bar this year, too. We looked at each other recently and realized that we had been living very different lives over the past 3 years. While he was learning the law, I was learning how to live very independently from him. There was definitely a point where we could’ve gone our separate ways. There just wasn’t much holding us together. But we fell in love with one another all over again. We are now laying a new foundation for our life, our marriage, our future. We are starting over, 4 years after we first said “I do.” I’m glad I’m not the only one who has hurt the way I’ve hurt – or hopes the way I now hope.

I hope we can look back on this time as a turning point, for both of us. Thinking of you, sweet friend.

By: Janice (5 Minutes for Mom)

Janice (5 Minutes for Mom) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 08:43:45 +0000

No one can express the complexities of marriage, hurt, depression, motherhood and more like you Casey. Your words are as beautiful as you are.

God bless you and your new life!

By: Liam Craig

Liam Craig — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 04:53:46 +0000

seriously love it, i am bawling right now, thank you for e-mailing me this

By: VDog

VDog — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 05:03:40 +0000

Beautiful, hon. I hope you and Cody find a nice, comfy home. Mansions are overrated.

By: Miss Britt

Miss Britt — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:15:17 +0000

I know this two house next door to each other business.

I know this wrecking ball.

I know this pile or rubble.

I haven’t got a clue what comes next.

But I know, too, this strange hope that comes from staring at the rubble.

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 06:57:15 +0000

Best Wishes with the new building.

By: Mrs. Cline

Mrs. Cline — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 04:12:34 +0000

Oh, I love this. I love this so much.

I am so happy for you and the home you are building together!

We all have something to learn from this story. Thank you for your vulnerability.

By: Candace

Candace — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 03:58:46 +0000

Great metaphor of a post. Looking back, is there anything you think you could have done differently to have avoided feeling like this?

By: Joy

Joy — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 08:41:56 +0000

Your lovely post sparked an a-ha! moment for me. Thank you for that, and best of luck with your renovation.

By: Rayne of Terror

Rayne of Terror — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 22:36:55 +0000

First, I admire you as a writer and a parent. I had to stop reading your blog about 18 m to 2 years ago because I couldn’t bear the way you were treated because of law school. This post of yours was shared in my google reader.

I began law school (top 30 school) in 2003 and graduated in 2007 having had a child in the middle and I still was an active participant in my family life and responsibilities during school. Law school doesn’t have to be this widowhood I keep seeing repeated in the comments. My husband loved law school years because we talked about the class work every night at dinner. And we ate dinner together every night. Even during finals. Even during bar prep.

I don’t know if your husband is going to a firm, but if he is, the same forces that separated you two during school will be at play. And he won’t be building his mansion, he’ll be building a partner’s mansion.

Did I miss out on some things I really really wanted during law school? Like law review or a summer at the IRS? Yes, I did. But after graduating I got a prestigious clerkship nonetheless and wrote a published tax opinion. Now I’m an AAG and am still home for dinner every night though, if I chose to, I could work nights and weekends.

For a good family life, gov’t lawyering is where it’s at. What you sacrifice in income, you make up in family harmony.