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		<title>By: Carlzbad</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-33136</link>
		<dc:creator>Carlzbad</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 20 Jun 2009 21:16:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I have the thought that it all goes back to &quot;What would Jesus Do?&quot; Would Jesus call someone a &quot;retard&quot; or &quot;fat&quot; or &quot;stupid&quot;? As I have been guilty in my life of these words escaping my lips, I have worked on it in my adulthood especially with having a child. All the of the words that we all each other are labels and or judgements. The hard thing about the judgements especially is that it once they are shared, those that have heard them have a prejudgement in their mind which can result in them not going to something as simple as a resturaunt, because someone said it was discusting or someone deciding to not talk to another person because they were told they were mean, ugly, nasty, etc. It is ok that we have our own opinions, that&#039;s what makes the world go round; however we need to own them as such and allow others to have their opinions as well without telling them it is wrong, bad, or trying to change it. It is ok that we get offended by certain names, if someone hasn&#039;t been educated then let them know of an alternative, if it gets to the point that they continue to say that same thing and you value that you aren&#039;t called that enough, then alternative steps can be taken. For example, I have placed a child for adoption. It is like nails on a chalkboard for people to say given up or gave away or anything besides placed. When I hear it I cringe and then before I totally go off on them, I have to remind myself that they may not know other terms and they may not know that it personally offends me. I can make a decision to share with them that it offends me or let it go. If I let it go then I have to remind myself the next time they use that term that I can&#039;t blow up on them because again I didn&#039;t do anything to inform them. I also find it disrespectful if you have been redirected by one to use a different term and you continue to use it in front of them.  I may be a birth mom , I may be a single mom, I may be a divorcee, I may be LDS, I may be whatever label is attached to me but At the end of the day I am Carly. 

Joe@irrationalDad- that calls people &quot;fat&quot;, &quot;retarded&quot;, etc. remember that you don&#039;t have all the facts. You don&#039;t know how or why those people are in those situations. What your consider overweight, I may think is just fine, or what you consider mentally challenged, I may think they are just fine as well. You are judging others according to your own expectations. Collect the facts, have your judgements, own them as such. 

I also agree with the comment about being color blind. That was well said.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have the thought that it all goes back to &#8220;What would Jesus Do?&#8221; Would Jesus call someone a &#8220;retard&#8221; or &#8220;fat&#8221; or &#8220;stupid&#8221;? As I have been guilty in my life of these words escaping my lips, I have worked on it in my adulthood especially with having a child. All the of the words that we all each other are labels and or judgements. The hard thing about the judgements especially is that it once they are shared, those that have heard them have a prejudgement in their mind which can result in them not going to something as simple as a resturaunt, because someone said it was discusting or someone deciding to not talk to another person because they were told they were mean, ugly, nasty, etc. It is ok that we have our own opinions, that&#8217;s what makes the world go round; however we need to own them as such and allow others to have their opinions as well without telling them it is wrong, bad, or trying to change it. It is ok that we get offended by certain names, if someone hasn&#8217;t been educated then let them know of an alternative, if it gets to the point that they continue to say that same thing and you value that you aren&#8217;t called that enough, then alternative steps can be taken. For example, I have placed a child for adoption. It is like nails on a chalkboard for people to say given up or gave away or anything besides placed. When I hear it I cringe and then before I totally go off on them, I have to remind myself that they may not know other terms and they may not know that it personally offends me. I can make a decision to share with them that it offends me or let it go. If I let it go then I have to remind myself the next time they use that term that I can&#8217;t blow up on them because again I didn&#8217;t do anything to inform them. I also find it disrespectful if you have been redirected by one to use a different term and you continue to use it in front of them.  I may be a birth mom , I may be a single mom, I may be a divorcee, I may be LDS, I may be whatever label is attached to me but At the end of the day I am Carly. </p>
<p>Joe@irrationalDad- that calls people &#8220;fat&#8221;, &#8220;retarded&#8221;, etc. remember that you don&#8217;t have all the facts. You don&#8217;t know how or why those people are in those situations. What your consider overweight, I may think is just fine, or what you consider mentally challenged, I may think they are just fine as well. You are judging others according to your own expectations. Collect the facts, have your judgements, own them as such. </p>
<p>I also agree with the comment about being color blind. That was well said.</p>
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		<title>By: moosh in indy. &#187; wherein I fight to the death over (not in) green jell-o.</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-32254</link>
		<dc:creator>moosh in indy. &#187; wherein I fight to the death over (not in) green jell-o.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 04 Jun 2009 08:04:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] all this PC/religion/namecalling garbage a new kind of debate has aroused [...]</description>
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		<title>By: Scattered Mom</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-31993</link>
		<dc:creator>Scattered Mom</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 31 May 2009 17:13:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The word that really, seriously, offends me is &quot;retarded&quot; or &quot;retard&quot;.  Mostly because I have a kid with learning disabilities and a motor coordination disorder, and he was called that MANY times by classmates (still is). The ironic thing is that he is often smarter than the name callers are.

It really is ignorance, because while I know the word &quot;retarded&quot; was used to describe people who are mentally handicapped at one point, this word now means &quot;stupid&quot;.  It&#039;s directed at kids who are blind, autistic, deaf, learning disabled, or physically disabled and while these kids have disabilities, many of them are wildly smart. They struggle enough to make it through daily life and show a determination and courage that most of us could only hope to live up to one day.

One the other end of the spectrum, even though someone might be mentally challenged, they deserve to at least be treated with dignity and compassion. I&#039;m sure everyone would expect that if it were THEIR child/mother/brother/sister/ etc

It can happen to any of us, at the drop of a hat. All it takes is a head injury.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Scattered Moms last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/NotesFromTheCookieJar/~3/z3tOrJctlxQ/win-power-shot-camera.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Win a Power Shot Camera!&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The word that really, seriously, offends me is &#8220;retarded&#8221; or &#8220;retard&#8221;.  Mostly because I have a kid with learning disabilities and a motor coordination disorder, and he was called that MANY times by classmates (still is). The ironic thing is that he is often smarter than the name callers are.</p>
<p>It really is ignorance, because while I know the word &#8220;retarded&#8221; was used to describe people who are mentally handicapped at one point, this word now means &#8220;stupid&#8221;.  It&#8217;s directed at kids who are blind, autistic, deaf, learning disabled, or physically disabled and while these kids have disabilities, many of them are wildly smart. They struggle enough to make it through daily life and show a determination and courage that most of us could only hope to live up to one day.</p>
<p>One the other end of the spectrum, even though someone might be mentally challenged, they deserve to at least be treated with dignity and compassion. I&#8217;m sure everyone would expect that if it were THEIR child/mother/brother/sister/ etc</p>
<p>It can happen to any of us, at the drop of a hat. All it takes is a head injury.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Scattered Moms last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/NotesFromTheCookieJar/~3/z3tOrJctlxQ/win-power-shot-camera.html" rel="nofollow">Win a Power Shot Camera!</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: moosh in indy. &#187; when a stereotypical joke is funny. or is it?</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-31989</link>
		<dc:creator>moosh in indy. &#187; when a stereotypical joke is funny. or is it?</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 31 May 2009 16:45:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] to me by someone whom I respect in my church. I think it&#8217;s funny. But with the recent &#8220;namecalling&#8221; debate what do you think? Is it okay because I&#8217;m the one telling it and am basically [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] to me by someone whom I respect in my church. I think it&#8217;s funny. But with the recent &#8220;namecalling&#8221; debate what do you think? Is it okay because I&#8217;m the one telling it and am basically [...]</p>
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		<title>By: WhyMommy</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-31916</link>
		<dc:creator>WhyMommy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 May 2009 16:41:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Very thoughtful!

(the term handicapped, though ... not so much.)

A funny: I just came back from a conference that I&#039;ve attended the last two years.  Last year I was almost bald, having just finished chemo, with just a fine fuzz of hair growing up.  This year, a few women remarked on how cute my hair was -- and then professed shock when hearing that I was a year out of chemo -- they told me they thought the buzz cut was &quot;a lifestyle choice!&quot;  Hilarious.  I think the world is making progress in taking people as PEOPLE, and I applaud that.

Nice post!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Very thoughtful!</p>
<p>(the term handicapped, though &#8230; not so much.)</p>
<p>A funny: I just came back from a conference that I&#8217;ve attended the last two years.  Last year I was almost bald, having just finished chemo, with just a fine fuzz of hair growing up.  This year, a few women remarked on how cute my hair was &#8212; and then professed shock when hearing that I was a year out of chemo &#8212; they told me they thought the buzz cut was &#8220;a lifestyle choice!&#8221;  Hilarious.  I think the world is making progress in taking people as PEOPLE, and I applaud that.</p>
<p>Nice post!</p>
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		<title>By: Kimmie</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-31885</link>
		<dc:creator>Kimmie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 May 2009 03:34:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great post...well said, a lot of things I was thinking of today after watching Dr. Phil...gag me.  Love you...standing ovation!

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Kimmies last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://kimsueellen.blogspot.com/2009/05/one-i-like-to-call-30-coke-slurpee.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;The One I Like to Call:  The $30 -Coke- Slurpee&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great post&#8230;well said, a lot of things I was thinking of today after watching Dr. Phil&#8230;gag me.  Love you&#8230;standing ovation!</p>
<p><abbr><em>Kimmies last blog post..<a href="http://kimsueellen.blogspot.com/2009/05/one-i-like-to-call-30-coke-slurpee.html" rel="nofollow">The One I Like to Call:  The $30 -Coke- Slurpee</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-31866</link>
		<dc:creator>Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 29 May 2009 18:54:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I just fell in love with you and your blog.  OH MY GOODNESS, AMEN!

I cannot tell you how much it aggravates me that there are &quot;correct&quot; terms for everything, and moreover, I can&#039;t keep them all straight!  And different people under the same community have different preferences and...ARGH.

I&#039;ll tell you what, though.  I won&#039;t be offended if you use the word Jew.  I won&#039;t even be offended if you add a four letter word and an -ing before it, as long as you&#039;re making one helluva joke.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I just fell in love with you and your blog.  OH MY GOODNESS, AMEN!</p>
<p>I cannot tell you how much it aggravates me that there are &#8220;correct&#8221; terms for everything, and moreover, I can&#8217;t keep them all straight!  And different people under the same community have different preferences and&#8230;ARGH.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ll tell you what, though.  I won&#8217;t be offended if you use the word Jew.  I won&#8217;t even be offended if you add a four letter word and an -ing before it, as long as you&#8217;re making one helluva joke.</p>
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		<title>By: mommymae</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-31855</link>
		<dc:creator>mommymae</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 29 May 2009 14:56:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>nice to be recognized as good people even though i&#039;m agnostic.  15-17% of people in the us claim to be agnostic/athiest &amp; many people still think we are valueless satan worshippers because we don&#039;t necessarily believe.  what works for me doesn&#039;t work for you &amp; vice versa, but i still like you and think you&#039;re funny as all get out

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;mommymaes last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://mommymae.wordpress.com/2009/05/25/new-music-monday-xx-2/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;new music monday xx&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>nice to be recognized as good people even though i&#8217;m agnostic.  15-17% of people in the us claim to be agnostic/athiest &amp; many people still think we are valueless satan worshippers because we don&#8217;t necessarily believe.  what works for me doesn&#8217;t work for you &amp; vice versa, but i still like you and think you&#8217;re funny as all get out</p>
<p><abbr><em>mommymaes last blog post..<a href="http://mommymae.wordpress.com/2009/05/25/new-music-monday-xx-2/" rel="nofollow">new music monday xx</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: jenabunny</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-31817</link>
		<dc:creator>jenabunny</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 28 May 2009 23:59:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>So, can we still refer to people as &quot;the really tall guy&quot; or &quot;the woman with all the red hair?&quot; How far are we as a human race going to take this?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So, can we still refer to people as &#8220;the really tall guy&#8221; or &#8220;the woman with all the red hair?&#8221; How far are we as a human race going to take this?</p>
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		<title>By: Kris</title>
		<link>http://mooshinindy.com/2009/05/26/namecalling/comment-page-2/#comment-31803</link>
		<dc:creator>Kris</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 28 May 2009 19:48:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I am &quot;the crazy aunt&quot;, and I take offence to that term.

:)

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Kriss last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.milesandmunchkins.com/?p=229&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Let the Cash Drainage Begin&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am &#8220;the crazy aunt&#8221;, and I take offence to that term.</p>
<p> <img src='http://mooshinindy.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p><abbr><em>Kriss last blog post..<a href="http://www.milesandmunchkins.com/?p=229" rel="nofollow">Let the Cash Drainage Begin</a></em></abbr></p>
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